Sometimes you’re going to find yourself in challenging situations that will trigger you and throw you back into the mess of negative self talk.
I was having a good time in the dressing room until I put on these shorts and I just wasn’t feeling myself.
Suddenly the cute girl I saw in the mirror was now a blob. Total shift.
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I didn’t feel good. They didn’t fit right. My body was bulging and just felt so large.
I could have berated my body for not fitting in and not looking how I envisioned it would. That’s what I feel most of us do in these situations – we immediately blame our bodies and ourselves.
But these shorts weren’t made to fit MY body. And that’s okay. It’s not my body’s fault. It’s not my fault. I didn’t somehow lose all my worth because they didn’t fit me.
So I took the damn shorts off and sent them on their merry way because they weren’t made for me. And I sent the shame along with them because that wasn’t made for me either.
And I thought to myself, how can you be HAPPY after being in a dressing room⁉️
Well here’s what I did…before I went in the dressing room I decided a few very important things (and yes I legit TALK myself through these things- I have to be louder than that inner critic!):
- Remember that if something doesn’t fit, it is only because the piece of fabric was not meant to fit my body shape, IT IS NOT MY BODY’S FAULT
- I had no expectations of what would fit or not
- I would not worry about the size if I had to go up or down and that fit supersedes the vanity of whatever number is on the item bc it doesn’t put a number on my worth
- I would have grace for my body while seeing her in all angles – front back side and otherwise – and make no judgments of myself but instead give her compliments
- I would allow myself to SEE me, take my time, enjoy the process and ask myself if I truly LOVED the item before purchasing it (instead of settling for whatever fits)
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About 8 new items (that’s a LOT for one trip for me!) that I’m really jazzed about ranging in sizes based on fit, style, comfortably and level of joy while wearing it!
And if you’re anything like me you’ll understand that I had to race home and put one of the outfits on and I’m loving it!
Such a mood lifter to actually enjoy the process instead of loathe it.
I’ve come a long way from just buying things without trying them on to avoid the dressing room altogether or avoiding the mirror by closing my eyes until the clothes were on and/or leave crying bc I was a different size than I thought or bc something didn’t fit me the way it fit the mannequin/model.
Maybe these tips will help you next time you’re in the dressing room! Do you ever struggle with this?
I want you to remember: You are so much more than how you perceive yourself. You are so much more than your physical body and how you look.
Our society is SO focused on changing the way we look, meanwhile the bulk of life, joy, and fulfillment takes place in a place you can’t even see: your spirit.
We all have our moments, but we don’t have to punish ourselves by letting the little moments take over our whole day or life.
Take a deep breathe, reassure yourself that your worth is ALWAYS within you no matter what happens to you and you will get through anything – including the abominable lighting in a target dressing room. And just in case you wanted to come in there with me, I shared all the outfits I tried on with links to each item below! (I wasn’t kidding about the lighting haha!)